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In fact, we cant wait for all our friends to share in the same happiness weve found and frequently cant help playing the Good Samaritan or should I say Cupid. But playing matchmaker for someone or someones you care about can be a risky challenge, especially if things dont work out (as planned). 1. Define Your Motives: Ask yourself why you want to set the couple up. Do you really think theyd be a good match or is it that you want to keep your girlfriend around for company (but she doesnt feel comfortable as the third wheel) or that you secretly have an attraction to the guy/gal and want a convenient way of keeping them frequently hanging around. 2. Use Their Judgment NOT (necessarily) Yours: Before introducing your two associates or friends, put yourself inside their minds and shoes. Determine beforehand and before getting either of their hopes up if THEY will feel they are compatible. Do they like the same things, do you think theyll be physically attracted to one another, do they have the same set of ethics or sense of humor. While nothing is perfect, you should at least get a good sense about their compatibility. 3. Keep Some Things To Yourself: Allow for some intrigue and mystery and eliminate any potential for negativity. While its important to be specific about some things, like the fact that your friend is a vegetarian or that hes short and has an earring, theres no need to reveal intimate details that may damage their chances before they have a chance to meet. 4. Offer Your Support: Whether you suggest hosting a dinner or having you and your date or mate join then to ease the tension and break the ice, let each know you are there IF they want you to be. But, if they are more comfortable on their own, respect their wishes. Remember, your enthusiasm combined with your presence may only serve to make the situation more tense and awkward. 5. Call It A Night: If you do join your friends and things (seem) to be going well, know that after dinner is your cue to leave. After all, three can be a crowd. And, remember, once you do your part let nature takes its course, so avoid acting as the go-between. 6. Be Prepared: Chances are you are more excited about this than either of your friends. In fact, unless they already know and have hinted at liking each other, they are entering the date with caution and trepidation. Expect things NOT to work out, and if they do youll be in for a pleasant surprise. And, dont forget to NOT let this affect your efforts or your relationship with either of them. |
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