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If a new dissatisfying situation arises, people act differently depending on their common behaviour strategy. Lets see how people of these two categories react to difficulties. The losers strategy. Something is wrong again When he does not attain the desirable result the loser experiences strong emotional discomfort that prevents him to evaluate the situation objectively. He transforms this negative experience onto other situations in his life. The winners strategy. What is the result? A person tries to separate this situation from the rest and give an objective analysis of facts. The losers strategy. Who is to blame? A person searches for the guilty. In most cases he blames the circumstances, more rarely people and almost never himself. The winners strategy. What have I learnt? A person is trying to find positive things in the situation. If you are given a lemon instead of apple make lemonade. The losers strategy. Why did it happen? (Fixing on the past). All the thoughts are concentrated on the negative experience. The winners strategy. How do I want to use it? (Fixing on the future). A winner has a dream. That is why he reflects how this experience can contribute in approaching his aim. The losers strategy. Limiting his future. I will never swallow the same bate. The winners strategy. New opportunities. How can I act more effectively in the future? As you see from the above examples the winner has a positive outlook and he is learning every day he lives. A winner is not a person who never loses. More likely a winner is someone who takes lessons from his mistakes and every day does something to approach his dream. |
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