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trying to get something hot and heavy going this Saturday evening, but time marches on whether youre paying attention to it or not. Luckily, youre likely to have many decades of good sex ahead of you as you enter, and even pass, your middle years. And you can improve your chances for a lifetime of hot nights if you start taking care of yourself today. For complex reasons, everyone has their own views about what is sexy or exciting, and what makes them feel powerful or irresistible or vulnerable -- whatever frame of mind theyd like to achieve fortheir highest enjoyment. During your 20s, one of the primary goals facing you is to become comfortable with your own sexuality, learning whom you want to be with, how often you want to make love, and what, exactly, you want to do in bed. And during your late 20s, you face the task of learning how to be comfortable with your lovers needs as well. This isnt easy. It involves sometimes awkward conversations, bedroom accommodations and compromises, and some amount of anxiety and frustration, which in themselves can contribute to occasional sex problems. If youre like most guys, by the time you reach your 30s, youll have entered into the world of career, marriage and parenthood. These arethe things most men want in life, and they can be quite fulfilling. But along with monogamy and new responsibilities, you may face new problems in the sack, particularly sexual boredom and loss of libido. Most men in their 40s will begin to notice differences in the quality of their erections. It may become increasingly difficult--for some, almost impossible--to raise one from sex fantasies alone, and direct touching of the genitals becomes increasingly essential (but whos complaining, right?). Also, erections may not achieve the same rigidity as before, and if fondling stops, they may soften or subside. There may also be some loss of sensation: your skin will begin to thicken, growing less sensitive, and nerve transmission will slow. The man loses interest in lovemaking or any intimate activity with a partner. He may simply feel he has no desire and does not feel aroused, even when a partner attempts to turn him on. Alternatively, he may feelgenerally tired and uninterested in life, including sex.Its pretty common for a mans penis to occasionally fall out during sex,but this can happen more often when the mans penis is small, not erect enough, or when the sex is particularly intense. Its not a big problem, and theres probably nothing wrong with either partner. If it happens often enough, however, it can become a frustrating momentum killer. It not only breaks the rhythm of the moment, but also can actually result in discomfort. The main reason this happens comes from the lack of sensitivity and feeling condoms cause for men. Some men try to put it back themselves with no hands and less skill than they ought to, occasionally spearing their partners more sensitive parts. Dont laugh, it actually happens! Women who experience this agree that it kind-of puts a damper on things. For a man in a relationship, understanding female sexual response is key to knowing how to better please his partner, strengthening both the bond and relationship. For the single man, it helps to know how youre doing when putting on the moves, and when she is ready for things to progress to the next level. Although many women could also stand to learn more about their own sexual response process, this article is directed towards men, basically to help them be better lovers. A little information can go a long way if you use it right. As you might have guessed, there are both physical and mental aspects to female sexual response - both influence her overall level of arousal. They key physical elements of a womans physical sexual response are the most obvious signs of sexual excitement, making them the most important for you to watch for. Mental aspects areextremely important, so well touch on the most vital. Physical signs of female sexual excitement include flushed skin due to increased bloodflow, increased breathing rate, and blood pressure. You may also see her overall level of body tension increase. Every woman is different, so whats important is to notice that something has changed.The physical elements you cant easily see include vasodilatation, which is increased blood flow to sexual organs, and biochemical and emotional changes that lead her towards a stronger desire for sex. Lets take a more detailed look at the stages of female sexual response. Sexual response is significantly different for men and women. Women dont need a recovery period like men typically do. After orgasm, women can just keep on going provided that stimulation is provided almost immediately. This is what allows women to have multiple orgasms - back-to-back stimulation resulting in orgasm. Her partner must apply stimulation immediately after orgasm in order to keep her going. Another difference between men and womens sexual response is that women can be distracted right up to the last moment. Men have several seconds of pre orgasm where they cannot stop it from happening, whereas women can be distracted right up until the last moment, pushing them slightly back in the cycle to approach orgasm again. Many things can affect a womans sexual response. Stress and fatigue play a major role, and the struggle to balance family,profession, and relationship can wear her down, causing a loss of sexual appetite.Lack of sexual desire is the most common female sexual complaint, and about 1 in 3 women experience lack of drive in their lives. Other issues can result in interruptions to normal sexual response. Daily stress and relationship strain can have lasting physical effects on sexual response, such as reduced blood flow to the vagina during sex. This can make sex uncomfortable, and result in even further loss of sex drive. Another common problem is when the man simply moves too fast. Not taking enough time for vasodilatation, lubrication, and nerve preparation can easily lead to discomfort for a woman. Different people, times, and situations - all affect the quality and path of arousal. There is no formula for the right path to sexual arousal, just what works for the situation. Look to the woman for what she needs next, and youll be better able to see what she needs when, and for how long. With a little more knowledge of female sexual response and a little practice, you should be well on your way to a much more satisfying sex life. |
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