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Enduring Truths About Self Interest We are self interested. When we sacrifice for others, even this is motivated by our own desires. Those desires include good feelings and wanting to see or make the world the way we want it to be. Forget this, and we become bitter trying to do the right thing. In order to avoid this bitterness that comes with duty, we need to see how being a good person and doing the right thing is just self interest. We can also point out the self-interest of others when we want to correct their behavior. Tell a man hes wrong, and it isnt usually enough to change his behavior. Its better to show him his true interest - that behaving in a better way is better for HIM. Dont forget the normal and healthy self-interest in dealing with others AND with yourself. Enduring Truths About Mistakes Salvador Dali said, Have no fear of perfection. Youll never reach it. Maybe you see this as negativity, but recognizing the truth is never a negative act. We all make mistakes. The greatest man or woman alive - whoever he or she is - has done some stupid things. This isnt an attack on human greatness, but a recognition that it isnt dependent on doing things perfectly. Perfectionists certainly suffer for their demands upon themselves, while others hesitate to act for fear of mistakes. Accept that making mistakes is normal, and dont dwell on the the possibility or the reality of those mistakes. As Lao Tzu says, Do your work, then step back - The only path to serenity. Enduring Truths About Learning Our mistakes give us a chance to learn, and so avoid even bigger mistakes. Of course, we also can learn from our successes, and from the successes of others. Why not view mistakes and successes - both our own and others - as the great opportunities they are. Just seize that chance to learn more and so live better. Enduring Truths About Change Probably you have seen people that appear to learn nothing from their mistakes, right? Havent you also known and read about those who turned their lives around? A less important truth is that people often dont change. The far more important truth to remember, and the most important of these enduring truths, is that we CAN change. |
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