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Lying A good, solid relationship is built on a firm foundation of trust. Everyone wants their partner to be honest with them (although definitions and standards of honesty may vary), and most importantly needs to be able to put their trust in someone. If youve arranged a first date via an online dating agency or personal ad and, when you turn up to the venue youre ten years younger or twenty stone heavier than you stated in your ad or than your picture showed, then you are probably not on to a good thing. Sure, your date might be able to get over the difference of expectations, but this type of behaviour does not bode well for future of your relationship Religion Again, like the issue of children, being religious does not preclude being successful in dating, but it is another thing that can be key to the success or failure of a relationship. The first major stumbling block is that many religions require members to only marry within their own religious group, although depending on your level of orthodoxy it may be possible to overcome this and many, many couples of mixed religion have maintained highly successful relationships. Many people, however, are actively anti-religious, believing that religious teachings are a crutch for the mentally or spiritually weak, and that organised religion is responsible for a large portion of the Worlds ills. A person with such beliefs is unlikely to get on particularly well with a person of devout faith. Another issue could be that a non-religious (as opposed to anti-religious) person may well be nervous about getting involved with someone strongly devout for fear of being preached to or looked on as a subject for conversion. Of course, characterising these things as insurmountable obstacles is a vast generalisation, as every incurable romantic knows, true love conquers all and, in any case, couples who are serious about making a relationship work should be prepared to compromise in some things from both sides. Bearing these things in mind however, and being upfront and honest from the start about what is and isnt subject to compromise can only be a good thing in the context of a burgeoning relationship. |
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