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You need to think in terms of being a GOOD guy, not a NICE guy. Women really dont want jerks. They want many of the qualities that a jerk portrays but they dont want you to really be a mean jerk. Take a look at the classic hero in most action movies. Lets look at Indiana Jones for a minute. Youll notice that for the most part he isnt a nice guy. He has no time for silly games, he tends to be rather abrupt with people who cant keep up with him, and he doesnt kiss anyones ass. To the amateur eye he may even come across as a jerk. But, heres what makes him the hero. When it comes down to it he really is a good guy. He really wants to help people. He has a big heart and even sacrifices his own life to help others around him. This is what women want. Its okay to have a big heart and to be a really good guy. In fact, women LOVE that. Its one of the main qualities they look for in a man. You need to learn to separate the concept of what youve been calling the nice guy from the good guy . The nice guy tells everyone what they want to hear. The nice guy doesnt stand his ground or voice his opinion when people offer adversity. The good guy isnt concerned with catering to everyone around him and isnt interested in telling people what they want to hear. He is however very caring and really wants to help people when it comes to serious issues. The good guy is the one who sacrifices himself when it really counts. He has a genuine love for people. You can and should be a good guy without being a weak nice guy. |
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