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- When your spouse says the infamous, I love you, but Im not in love with you anymore - When your spouse threatens you with divorce And believe it or not, in some cases, your marriage is NOT even over when...your spouse files for divorce. Your marriage is NOT over when your spouse begs, pleads, argues, screams, storms out of the house or turns the whole family against you. Quite the contrary, The Point of No Return in a marriage IS confirmed when your spouse looks at you as if s/he were dead. There is no life in your spouses voice and no life in his/her eyes. Your spouse doesnt get angry with you. S/he simply tells you when the divorce papers are going to be served. S/hes already gone to the court house, found an attorney and has a service date set for the divorce proceedings. Your marriage is most likely over when your spouse has made complete lists of assets and debts with your both of your names on them. Your spouse has already decided on the custody plan and cleaned out any bank accounts with their name and yours and closed all the credit cards that you share. Your spouse has reached The Point of No Return when s/he already knows the courts require a 120 day waiting period and s/he has emotionally bolted him/herself in place for the long wait. Youve gone WAY beyond an unhappy marriage when your spouse has talked many times to the children about divorce and they are now either scared, angry, hurt, confused or emotionally shut down. Theres a good chance your marriage is over when your spouse doesnt care about how your children feel about it. S/he is only acting for his/her own survival at this point and s/he has repeatedly convinced him/herself that The kids are good, theyll be fine. S/he may have even said that to friends and relatives. This is the REAL Point of No Return. Ive found that when your spouse has reached the Point of No Return, no one can save your marriage at this point. Not a priest, pastor or marriage counselor. So How Did this Happen? A marriage gets to this point because we live in a society that is convinced that once you are married, there is nothing you need to learn about marriage and nothing you need to practice. All you need is love. If you dont have love, then its all your fault that your marriage failed. Because of this belief, you kept on doing exactly what you always did...your version of love. You treated your spouse the same way your father treated your mother...or vice versa. You kept on doing the same thing and kept on getting the same results. Your spouse could not help you to help him/her. No matter how many times s/he told you how to meet his/her needs, you couldnt hear...you just couldnt understand. How do I know this? I know it because every single divorce is built on the same system. When your emotional needs are not met in a marriage, anywhere from 1-3 of the situations listed below will begin to take place in your marriage. Because you know virtually nothing about how to be married and how to support each others needs, you have no way to stop these issues from happening: - Affair - Sex failure - Communication break down - No Loyalty - In-Law problems - Grew apart - Fell out of love - Blended family issues - Abusive attitudes - Depression - Angry spouse - No romance - Ignores me - Money problems - Children problems - Avoids me If your spouse has not yet passed the Point of No Return, you can still save your marriage; there is still hope for the two of you. But you need to do something TODAY to improve your unhappy marriage. Believe me, I get emails daily with stories about marriages that took a turn for the worst in a matter of WEEKS. These people simply waited too long and before they knew it, their spouse had reached the Point of No Return. So my message to you is DONT WAIT. Do something for your marriage TODAY...before its too late. You can start by getting the FREE marriage advice you can use to fix your marriage at the http://www.marriage-success-secrets.com website. Note: This article is not legal advice. It is not meant to replace marriage counseling. |
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